I have a confession to make, my name’s Liz and I am a seriousaholic. I hate to say it, but having fun and indulging my immature side is not something that comes naturally to me.
This may seem like a really easy aspiration to implement but I don’t often make fun a priority . Guilt, duty and responsibility are things I can do in abundance. Fun, on the other hand is much more difficult for me.
I find it easier to do what I have to do, chores, commitments, things for others, than identifying and blocking out time to just have fun. Add in the constant marketing messages of all the things I could be doing alongside the Facebook and Twitter updates it can feel like you are missing out on the fun that everyone else appears to be having.
I am often struck how at ease my other half is with children and can make them laugh and generally messes around with them. Hell, he even plays with the dog. Games are not something that I enjoy and have never really seen the point of them but I am starting to think that I am missing out.
So, in order to indulge in more fun, I need to work out the things I enjoy and what is fun for me through the following steps;
- Try a range of different activities to experience new things and widen my horizons
- Recognising that I don’t have to be excellent at something to enjoy it. My overachieving side tends to veer to those things which I know I will excel at.
- Set up a Date Day once a month with the husband. This day is for us to try a new experience and do something more lighthearted. We socialise plenty as a couple but it tends to revolve around food/drink and our friends. I enjoy all these things, but don’t want us to stop having fun together and in new environments.
- Set up a ‘give it a go’ list. I have lots of other lists, ‘to do’, ‘five year plan’, 33 things in my 33rd year, but these are mainly goal driven. The ‘Give it a Go’ list will be fun and frivolous in nature.
I would love to hear how you have fun and any tips for me.